At some point I began planning events in my head. I daydreamed about what outfits I would pack for my trip to Virginia. I haven’t been to this part of the country in years and I looked forward to traveling outside of Connecticut. “Maybe I need new luggage too?” I thought as I perused online […]
Read more "Love, Locs, and Plants"Please stand if you’re ready for a vacation. Dear reader please imagine me standing with both arms up; waving frantically from side to side. Me! Me! Me! Me! I’m ready! I’d also then like a vacation from my vacation to literally and figuratively unpack it all. This past weekend I had the pleasure of taking […]
Read more "I’m Ready"Mothers: Y’all alright? There’s this really amazing thing that happened to me when I was pregnant and after I gave birth. Women, near and far checked in on me. Randomly, without a specific reason. It seems like just yesterday I was caring for a newborn in what felt like new world. Prior to Harper’s birth […]
Read more "ADORE"The light touch of God’s grace permeates everything. Rose Gold. That was the color my mom gravitated to when she looked at decorations for her 61st birthday dinner. Around this time last year she was not in the best of health. She spent many days in and out of hospitals and even time in a […]
Read more "Gossamer"Before I became a mother, I along with with many other single women were always looked upon as having disposable income and disposable time. It was easy for those whom loved us to see our time as less valuable. Our time wasn’t being filled with changing diapers, feeding babies and maintaining a household. The concept […]
Read more "Mothering of the Tribe"Harper hates keeping his socks and shoes on. He often has at least one foot bare before I pull out the driveway for our morning commute. As an infant he can’t comprehend why it’s important for him to keep his little feet covered and warm during the cooler months in New England. It’s not just […]
Read more "Loc(s) of Love"Deep breath in and deep breath out. Practicing deep breathing is a wonderful technique to slow down one’s mind and relax tense muscles. Paying close attention to how it feels as your chest cavity expands and then compresses is a great technique to help immediately reduce stress. Deep breathing allows one to center themselves and […]
Read more "In and Out"Life literally is a tight rope. One wrong move..BOOM. You’re falling and praying the landing is a soft thud rather than a smattering of body parts. I wrote that brief intro before the passing of our beloved actor, Chadwick Boseman. As of this current writing it is clear to me that for many of us […]
Read more "Tightropes"Screaming is good. It’s no different than sprinting-hitting a punching bag or slamming ones closed fist into a wall. All much better then curling up in bed and throwing a blanket over one’s head. A big part of being reflective; especially during a time of high stress is to not resort to behaviors that will […]
Read more "반사 (Reflection)"Someone recently asked me: “What will you miss most about being pregnant?” This question took me by surprise because lately I determined what kind of day it’s going to be based on whether or not I vomit before work. I then rate the day based on whether or not I regurgitate only bile or actual […]
Read more "“Birth, life and death-each took place on the hidden side of a leaf”.-T. Morrison"
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