Re visioning the Black Father: Interview #1

 

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In the post: Re visioning the Black Father I conclude with the decision to interview some of the many black fathers I know personally. They may not know it-but their commitment to their children has shifted my perspective on how I view black fathers and black men in general.

They have been humanized.

The care and love they demonstrate for their children always peels back the layers of the “alpha male” and guarded individual I often associate with when I think of black men. The vulnerabilities of being a parent (I often hear parents refer to their children as their heart existing outside of their body) shines through every time I observe a father with his children. Their love radiates every part of such father’s being.

I deem it only appropriate that the first father interviewed is my husband. Although we are in a rather complex place within our relationship ( When Love Just Isn’t Enough), I must admit his commitment to his child and his intentional efforts to build memories and be his child’s first teacher is one to be respected.

Anika: What were your first thoughts about having a baby?

Cameron: I was surprised while also being nervous, confused and sad.

Anika: Why sad?

Cameron: I was young-only 19 years old. I wasn’t ready for what was to follow. I wasn’t ready for the repercussions. I wasn’t financially stable. I was on a four year college academic scholarship.

Anika: How has your life changed since becoming a father?

Cameron: When his mom gave birth to him, my life change for the better. I experienced pure joy. I knew I was going to be  an active participant in his life.

Anika: What’s your greatest joy when it comes to your son ?

Cameron: I love seeing his independence. He no longer needs my guidance with certain things. Although there is great joy in watching your child grow it is also lonely. He is all I’ve  ever known but he doesn’t need me in the way he used to. He is a teenager now and he’s growing up.

Anika: What’s your greatest fear?

Cameron: My greatest fear would be burying him.

Anika: If you could tell your 19 year old  self something after finding out you were going to be a dad, what would you say?

Cameron: You won’t be like your father in so many ways. You’re going to have to learn to listen and be patient with the mistakes associated with growing pains and be reasonable knowing about everything he’s doing.

Anika: What’s one advice  you’d give to fathers?

Cameron:  It’s a long road that never ends. Please stay committed and don’t give up on your flesh and blood.

To my beautiful female readers: share this post with a father-I would love to hear their perspective. Comment below. Blessings.

4 thoughts on “Re visioning the Black Father: Interview #1

  1. Very nice interview . Yes I can say there are a lot of great fathers out there that love their children unconditionally . Great example to follow . God bless those dads and I hope others can learn a lot from them . It’s never too late to step up to the table.

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  2. A real man takes care of their child and he doesn’t waiver no matter the consequences. You don’t see much of that but when you do it
    Makes you proud to say if she can do it he can do . Both parents work now not like the old days where the woman stayed home and the man worked. now a days they both have to because of the economy it should be half in parental care not one solely.Kudos to the men of today who step up it makes you want to cry for joy when see the joy the love and commitment that not many fathers express

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