There’s a Japanese proverb that argues everyone has three faces. There’s the face you show to those you interact with (work, general society), the face you show your family and the third face is the one you only show yourself.

I found this to be quite intriguing, it makes sense to me. As I meander around the world, especially in spaces where there’s a certain level of professionalism and decorum expected, my representative shows up. That first face attends conferences, work meetings, interviews, makes appointment and just “adults”. This face is well mannered, calm and reserved. The second face, the one reserved for family is quirky, off beat, with a large personality. This version of myself will break out in song (off key and giddy) or a two step with gyrating hips and slow to fast twerking. I love this version of myself, for it’s free and unapologetic in authenticity and care. Proper syntax and grammar is held loosely as I speak freely about everything from the next family event to the most recently devoured meal. The family favorite of signifying goes back and forth among siblings and parents with ease as we poke fun at each other with a freedom one only gets from comfortability.

The third face, now that’s an interesting concept; the face you only show yourself, your truest form. For me, this third face that unfolds in solitude. All the roles I play in my everyday has fallen away and in it’s place is my true authentic self. Face one and face two are still there, ready to take control as needed. This version of myself is different. Possibly quieter than face two, more complex with various thoughts happening often all at once. This version of myself is not as clear cut as the other two, it’s not a matter of black and white, rather there are shades of gray- a spectrum. I’m not good or bad, but rather an amalgam of both.

What about you dear reader? Have you heard of this ancient proverb? What do your three faces look like? I can wait to read your responses! Blessings.