I grew up listening to older Jamaican adults encouraging my sister and I to learn how to cook. “One day, you’ll make a good wife and you will keep your husband happy”. “No one will want to marry you if you can’t cook”, they would say as we dutifully observed and then tried to imitate […]Read more "“Anika-This Tastes Good, You’re Ready to Marry”"
I grew up differently than today’s kids. We were latch key kids. My older sister used to get off the school bus and walk to my school. She would get on an elevator-go to the top floor and pick me up. We’d head down the elevator together hand in hand and walk home. Sometimes we […]Read more "The World of Cassette Tapes, Cabbage Patch Kids and Crack Vials: I’m an 80’s Baby!"
Aside from wanting to practice meditation more, I want to be more mindful of my every waking moment. I have found myself bubbling over with anger at what I perceive as a great injustice. (In reality, most injustices are not worth an iota of my time-but in the moment: I am ready to ponce). […]Read more "Old Miserable Jamaican Lady Syndrome"
There are so many things I can say about Christopher Tomlin (affectionately known as Shorty Chris). I remember being a freshman at Norwalk High School in Norwalk, CT. As an underclassman I noticed Shorty Chris from afar. He was a popular senior whom was friends with everyone. He played basketball with the best of […]Read more "Re visioning the Black Father: Interview # 2"
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In the post: Re visioning the Black Father I conclude with the decision to interview some of the many black fathers I know personally. They may not know it-but their commitment to their children has shifted my perspective on how I view black fathers and black men in general. They have been humanized. The […]Read more "Re visioning the Black Father: Interview #1"
One thing I learned after being admitted into a psychiatric hospital two times in two years are strategies in managing stress. I have learned how to recognize triggers and I have found constructive ways in giving myself self-care. This may mean knowing when it’s time to take a mental health day from work, increase physical […]Read more "When Love Just Isn’t Enough"